Silk Road Stories

by rosedeniz

Friendships made in just a few short hours. Life stories shared, professional commonalities discovered, mothering suggestions offered, all while eating some of the best Turkish food I’ve had in Turkey. The women I met from the Bursa International Women’s Association were French, Italian, German, Russian, American, and more. How were we able to relate to each other with different cultural viewpoints? Different occupations, different ages? I went to speak about creativity and left marveling at the ability for community to form abroad. Enlightened conversation. Multi-national viewpoints.

Bursa, known for being the last stop on the silk road, has a vibrant international women’s community. I met a Turkish woman who runs her own coffee shop after first studying finance in Turkey, designing textiles in New York, and returning to start afresh with coffee and pastries she decorates herself. I met an American opening the first quilting shop in Turkey that will be selling fabric online (yea for me!). I met a German graphic designer who breezed through my drawing exercises. I met homemakers juggling multiple kids and learning new languages. I met a woman with her 2-month old baby who apologized for her English while elegantly articulating that the only thing she wants to do is be a mother right now.

Riding a bus to Bursa that left at 7:30 a.m., I sat next to a university student wearing hand-knit leg warmers and gloves who offered me her saltine crackers. 11 hours later, we coincidentally rode the same bus back to Izmit, laughing when we boarded the small service bus that took us home to nearby neighborhoods. She studied economics. Had taken her final exam that day. She was a photographer. We made a date for coffee.

I believe that the things most difficult to overcome, public speaking being way out of my comfort zone, are emboldened by passion. By the support of a community that honors unique, individual voices that examine larger cultural patterns. I am passionate about art and life being merged, even if it is messy. I am grateful for breaking out of routines. And the kismet relationships that can form just by hopping a bus.

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  • tara.agacayak

    This is so beautiful Rose! It's almost like I went with you to Bursa.

  • rose deniz

    Thanks, Tara! I wish you could you have been there with me!

  • Karyn Bryant

    Sounds like a great group of women! You know, I was riding the Greyhound to Philadelphia a few years ago and chatting with the people around me. I shared my Reese's Pieces with a girl named Maye, who was on her way to visit a friend. I invited her over wile she was in town, we exchanged info, and a year later I was back in Milwaukee and her cousin in Mexico became my Spanish language partner for a semester-long project. Maye is one of those treasures found on a bus!
    - Karyn

  • anastasiaashman

    Love the kismet, and the the hidden gems of Bursa. The town's deep history and green mountains don't get nearly the attention that Istanbul does … and everything I've heard about the international women population there is good. Very good. Thanks for sharing, Rose.

  • Minnado

    It sounds like a wonderful experience. Sometimes it is good to be open to new friendships isn't it? I am now going to have a look at Bursa – I want to see what it looks like! I also wanted to thank you for your reply to my comment a while ago and for looking at my blog – it is still in early stages and I appreciate a Follower!

  • rose deniz

    Thank you Karyn, Anastasia, and Minnado for your comments. I hope to spend more time in Bursa, and to remind myself to get out the door sometimes because I never know who I might meet. Minnado, you're very welcome. I'm happy to have connected with you

  • Elisa, Croatia

    lovely story. How great to meet other women with different backgrounds. I recently had the same encounter when my classmates from my croatian class met for dinner with our significant other at a friend's home. There were 27 of us! Representing over 10 countries, it was so much fun.

    Saludos.
    A Mexican mommy living in Europe

  • rose deniz

    Multi-talented, multi-lingual and cultural dinners are certainly an elixir for serendipity, Elisa! Thanks so much for sharing this story. Abrazos! xo

  • tasteofbeirut

    Thanks so much for sharing such an inspiring story; I wish I could have been there!

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